If you’ve gone through a recent break-up, you are probably trying to figure out how to get over that person, or how to win back your ex.  Neither is very easy, but  only a few are able to move on quickly without being depressed, confused, or just wanting things to be different.  Think hard about the relationship you had with your ex before you do anything.  Think about how things were and how they will be now.  Was the break-up really a bad idea?  If you believe that it was, then there will be action that you need to take.

If you decide to try to win back your ex, the first step is to apologize.  Even if you think you’ve done this already.  You might have said you were sorry several times.  But if your ex thought you were apologizing just to stop a break-up, he or she might not think the apology was sincere.

If you were the one who did something that you need to apologize for, apologize again.  Now your ex might think the apology is sincere, because nothing hinges on it.  If the relationship has ended, you won’t be saying it only to save it but your ex will believe that you really mean it, if you do.

When your ex was the one who did something worth apologizing for, then rather than try to get a sincere apology from them, forgive them.  You may never forget, especially if your break-up was because of cheating, but you must learn to forgive.  Forgiving is much harder for some of us than merely saying, “I forgive you”.  You need to mean it, and you need to believe it because what you will be doing is freeing your ex from the burden of what was done.  If you want to win back your ex, apologizing, and forgiving are two of the main things that will help you do that, and future problems may be more likely to be avoided as well.

If you do succeed and win back your ex,  old issues might begin to come up later on, so those things will need to be faced head on as soon as possible.  If you haven’t truly forgiven your ex for whatever was done to break up the relationship, then you might have a hard time getting past things in the future.  Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone needs to be forgiven for things they have done, but keep in mind, that’s not to say that there won’t be consequences.

If you can truly forgive your ex, there won’t be any need to worry about the past, or the future.  While you’re working on forgiving him or her for whatever happened to cause the break up, forgive them for the break up itself and you’ll save yourself a lot of grief down the road.

Also, to win back your ex, you will need to become again the person that your ex fell in love with, and not the person that has been dumped.  You were both together because you have certain qualities, whatever they may be, and you both did things when you were first together that made you both want to be with each other all the time.  You might not be able to hide the hurt, but you can concentrate on being the best you can possibly be for that person.  You may win back your ex by reminding them why they loved you in the first place, and how they can still be in love with you.

Dave Earley
http://www.howcanigetmyexbacknow.com